Is it really that hard to understand men?



My personal opinion - its not. I think women are more complex & quite sure many would agree. We don’t tell men explicitly how we want them to react given a certain situation & expect them to figure it out themselves. We also expect them to be “sensitive” and “intelligent” enough to be able to comprehend our untold needs and wants. And when they are unable to do that, we start doubting their commitment, we accuse them of being not that “into us” And this is enough to press the panic buttons. We need to remember that we have the ‘power’ to change things, change the course of the river, the way we want! We also need to understand that MEN THINK DIFFERENTLY. Men need instructions, period. You tell them what you want and they will give it you, in all possibilities a lot more than that!

So girls, relax, take it easy! Don’t be mean to your guys, just be nice to them, give them time and they will come around for sure.

PS: would love to how you feel about this issue, so keep posting your comments.

Of death and dying

I don’t like change. I feel like a fish without water when I am put in new situations. Some may find this i.e, facing new situations, quite challenging. Not me. I somehow find it quite difficult to get accustomed to new settings. I don’t like it when someone pulls me out my comfort zone. Not that I am against growth and all. It’s just that new things scare me. I feel overwhelmed and feel as if I am going to let myself down by not rising to the occasion. I wish things never change; people never die.

Another thing that scares me the most is DEATH. The very fact that the absence of that person in my life will bring about a see change is what makes death a bogeyman for me. You feel a vacuum long after that someone special is gone. Gone forever! That is when you realize there were so many things left unsaid, so many things left undone and you hope against hope for that person to come back. You are reminded of all the good and the bad times you spent. Only to realize that you can never get those moments back. And this makes you long for him/ her even more – you see, human nature is such that you always want things that are out of reach, always want things that even you know you can never have.

Taking of death and dying, I am reminded of my grandmom, who died some 10 years back. Seems like a long time, but it still amazes me no ends when I seem to remember a few of her things so clearly. That day when I fought with her for not waking me up on time for my dance class, I can still feel the warmth of her hug, how her shawl felt when I wrapped it around myself, the way her dosa tasted, the warmth of her body pressed against mine while I took my afternoon nap, how her hand felt when she held on to mine while crossing the road, the way she used to talk to the sabzi wala in her self invented tamilish hindi, how she defended me every time I got into a fight with my mom. Its just so difficult to get her face off my mind even as I am writing this. I really wish she was alive today to see her daughter (my mom) doing so well for herself, handling her family all by herself. I really wish she were alive to see her grand daughter (me) doing well in her life too, what a wonderful life partner she has found for herself, with a pretty neat job etc.etc. I wish she were here to see my brother do well academically (he never did while she was with us and this worried her no ends).

I am left teary eyed and longing for her like never before!

chennai

Hey,

The blog is just 2 posts old and I am already getting a bit obsessed with it. I am constantly thinking about a topic for my next post, keep checking the blog for any new comments, keep pestering my friends to check out my posts and leave comments and the works!The big thing that I was to share with you all, wasn’t all that good, so no point whinning about it here. I am

a lil upset, that is the reason why I decided to write this post, just to take my mind off it. I heard it somewhere that when you feel stressed out or are feeling a bit low, it helps if you try to think about happy things – happy people u met, happy places you visited. I have decided to do the latter.

I took a trip to Chennai 2 months back to attend a cousin’s wedding and totally fell in love with it.This trip changed my perception about the city complete.
The moment you step out of the Chennai train station, there are just 2 smells that the city greets you with – that of incense and

food!!!! And these smells are not just limited to the train station, but follow you where ever you go around the city:)The roads are not that wide and the traffice is just plain maddening! Chennai is a big fan of BIG hoardings, outdoor advertising can’t get any bigger! Few hoardings were as huge as a movie screen in multiplexes, many were bigger than that – amazed me totally!at one point of time I was actually gwaking at them with my mouth wide open!!! Second obervation - saw many women on 2-wheelers, something which isin’t that common in Delhi.

Another observation – people there seem to have just two things to do – shop for saris and shop for gold.T-nagar, which is one of the shopping hubs, remains crowded at all times during the day. The market just overflows with people either coming out of the many sari shops there or from one of those selling gold. Even if the price of gold were sky rocketing, no one seems to bother!the size of the sari stores would give any 5 star hotel a run for their money. And the variety in saris that one gets is just amazing ,and they are dirt cheap as well!! The whole experience was quite an memorable one.Though I had gone there to attend a wedding, these are the thngs that I remember the most abt the trip.

Will be more than happy if any of u want to share such experiences with me:)

Till next time

Love
me

Something NEW, something BLUE and NANO

Hey all

I know my second post has come in quite soon, but I a am just sooo excited about this whole thingy :). I started writing this post the moment I go on the bus back home! And I started thinking about the topic for my next post, i.e this one the moment I stepped out of office!!You see, there is this thing with me – New things excite me to death when I have just started out with them; new clothes, new hobbies, new relationships. I am totally consumed with it! But then with time, this effect wears off. As a result of this I find it very difficult to be regular with things, such as this one. But then, come to think of it, isn’t this how it is with everyone?

That was all about “something new”. Now coming to the next part of the header for this post – something blue. I am totally sold over “color therapy” these days, I keep prescribing colors to every tom, dick and harry!!:)I feel so valued and proud of myself when someone comes upto me to ask me which color should he/she be using given the problem that person is facing. So till the initial excitement wears off, I am going to bask in glory!:) So, fear not all those troubled souls out there, your’s truly at your service, anytime, anyday!:)

Tata’s 1 lakh car was launched yesterday amidst all the regular pomp and show. And since then there has been a NANO overkill everywhere, be it the newspapers, the television channels, radio stations. The car is cute and all that, but it’s left to see how it does on the roads. It is basically targeted at all those 2-wheeler owners whom can pride themselves with a 4-wheeler now. My concern – aren’t there just too many cars on Delhi roads as it is? The traffic jams are only going to get worse in the coming days. Though, I really don’t have anything against this whole thing, in fact I wouldn’t mind booking one for myself.

That is all for now guys, got to get back to work now.

FYI – I have this really big thingy that is all set to happen this weekend, keeping my fingers crossed, will share it you all once I am back to work?

Till then, enjoy your weekend guys and those who do not have an off, don’t crib and kaam karo.

Love

Me:)..muuuuaaahhhh!!

my first post

Hello world,

Its been donkey years since i created this blog, but I had not bothered to write my first post till today. I am not very sure how this whole thing works, but will surely take time out to explore and figure out in a few days time. Its 6.30 on a thursday evening, I am still at work, all sleep deprived and all.I had a late nighter at work yesterday,preparing for a meeting today, which went quite ok.I have loads of work to be delivered,lets see how much of it gets actually done! I will son be 6 months into this job.

Now somethng about my blog, the posts would more or less be how my day was, if something imp happens in my life and all that.All in all it will be about me and me and more of me. I may come across as quite self obssessed and all(dont think got that spelling right) but am not very sure if i am.

Something abt myself, though this is not the place where all that is supposed to be written. well i work with an "ad agency",as fancy as it may seem, fyi, its just the opposite! its going to be 6 months into my first job and i wud be lying if i say that "i have enjoyed every bit of it"! its just the opposite, when i had just started out here, I was quite sure i am not going to be here for long, but i am, have come out as a survivor, a lil stronger than before!:)clappings to me:) I cudnt have done it without my guy..clappings to him too:) (love u baby..muah)

I am not very sure why in the first place i started this blog, cud be coz there was a time wen i used to keep reading so many and thot why not try it out myself, or could be coz i think i have written well in the past but m not in touch with it anymore and that i shudnt let go of it so soon, i dunno..jst hope i am regular at it.Which i think shudnt be very hard given the fact that it took me jst 15mins to write my VERY FIRST POST.

till next time

love

me..muah